Can a start-up have a soul?
  October 13, 2023 Greetings, Meteor readers, I wish I could kick this off with something quippy, but it’s been a difficult week for all of us. Six days ago, Hamas carried out an attack on Israel—killing more than 1,000 civilians and taking hundreds hostage. Friday morning, Israel issued a warning to Palestinians in the northern half of Gaza, advising them to evacuate within 24 hours, a move the UN called “impossible”; the very same day AP News reported that Israeli airstrikes had killed Palestinians who were fleeing the region, children among them. The situation has also had reverberations across the U.S. and Europe as anti-semitism is on the rise. But Friday also offered a moment of collective pause. For Muslims, it is a day of communal prayer and for Jews, the beginning of the Sabbath. Finding the small things that unify us—those tiny windows of peace—is so important in an uncertain time. Know that if you’re reading this and you’re in pain, you are not alone. As one of the good books reminds us, “verily with hardship comes ease.” In today’s newsletter, a change of pace—what we learned from the wise speakers at Work Shift—and some weekend reads to keep you informed. In prayer, Shannon Melero  THIS WEEK AT THE METEOROn Thursday afternoon in New York City, we got to leave work to discuss work—gathering with workplace leaders and changemakers at The Meteor’s first Work Shift event. Some of my personal favorite moments:
 PHOTO BY MONNELLE BRITT More exclusive highlights to come from us next week—and if you were there send us an email with your favorite moments at [email protected] and we’ll share your takeaways. WEEKEND READS 📚On mothering through war: Two women from opposite sides of a border share their suffering. One reflects on her son being captured by Hamas, the other explains what’s like to raise children in Gaza. (The New York Times & Rampant Magazine) On Hamas: Isaac Chotiner talks to an expert about the group’s origins and the paradigm shift its attack has created. (The New Yorker) On history repeating itself: For some, the last few days have felt like the heydays of the early post-9/11 era. (n+1) On the X of it all: Twitter was once a vital location for minute-by-minute updates in conflict areas. But Elon Musk’s X is something far less useful. (Slate) On loneliness: One Jewish writer shares his feelings of abandonment from his leftist community in the wake of the Hamas attacks. (The Atlantic)  FOLLOW THE METEOR     Thank you for reading The Meteor! Subscribe using their unique share code or snag your own copy, sent Tuesdays and Thursdays.
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In war, women and children pay the price
  October 10, 2023 Good evening, Meteor readers, Over the last few days, the world has held its breath as we’ve witnessed new levels of violence and destruction in Palestine and Israel. Decades of turmoil, resistance, and failed peace efforts have come to a boiling point. The situation is apocalyptic for the innocent civilians in both Israel and Gaza, where the Israeli government has ordered a complete siege. And for diaspora Palestinians and the global Jewish and Muslim communities, it has been doubly difficult. Not only are they being asked to choose a side in one of the longest-running conflicts in human history, but, on social media, there’s also the pressure to do so in a way that is digestible to everyone else—often without context and nuance. What is happening cannot fit in an easy tweet or cleverly worded Instagram post. Honestly, it can’t even fit in this newsletter. So tonight, we invite everyone to slow down for a moment. Give yourself room to learn, to grieve, to step away from your screens if that works for you. And we also ask our community to be vigilant in a moment when the internet is awash with even more propaganda and misinformation than usual. In today’s newsletter, our team (composed of people with differing views and backgrounds) shares some learnings that have been useful to us—about what’s happening, why it’s happening, and what it will mean for women and girls. Know that we are with you. In mourning, Your Newsletter Team  WHAT'S HAPPENING NOW
HISTORY AND CONTEXT
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Abortion ban survivors run for office
 October 5, 2023 Hello, Meteor readers, We’re not like a regular newsletter; we’re a cool newsletter—which is why we promised a shoutout to the first person who could identify Mean Girls as the movie that forever enshrined October 3rd: It’s Christina B.! You go, Christina B.  And speaking of national treasures, it’s Fat Bear Week! Vote for your favorite ursine cuties here. Today, I talk to Allie Phillips about how being denied an abortion in Tennessee prompted her to run for the U.S. House (and reveal the other pro-choice activist she inspired to run for office). Also, karma comes for Drew Barrymore, and we offer up some weekend reads. You can always sit with us, Nona Willis Aronowitz  WHAT'S GOING ON
 POWERFUL AND PISSEDFrom Pro-Choice TikTok to Campaign TrailAllie Phillips went viral with her abortion story. Now she’s running for office.BY NONA WILLIS ARONOWITZ  PHOTO COURTESY OF ALLIE PHILLIPS If you’d asked Allie Phillips last year whether she’d consider running for office, she would have given you a quick “no.” But that was before a series of events gave her a front-row seat to just how little Republican politicians understand about women’s lives. Back in March, the 28-year-old Tennessee mom and home daycare worker had gone viral on TikTok for sharing her gut-wrenching abortion experience: At her routine 19-week anatomy scan, she’d found out that her daughter, whom she’d already named Miley Rose, had severe fetal anomalies and would not survive outside the womb. Her doctors told Phillips that continuing the pregnancy would put her at risk, but because of Tennessee’s strict abortion ban, they couldn’t help her. She’d have to find another way. By the time she’d raised thousands of dollars for out-of-state travel and arrived at a New York City clinic for her abortion, she got the heartbreaking news that she’d already lost the baby. Being forced to confront that reality alone in an unfamiliar place with doctors she’d never met made her feel like a “piece of dirt underneath someone’s shoe,” she tells The Meteor. It was “completely inhumane.” She quickly became not only a passionate pro-choice advocate online and a plaintiff in the Center for Reproductive Rights’ ongoing lawsuit against Tennessee, but also a magnet for other people’s stories. She thought she didn’t know anyone who’d had an abortion, but after sharing her experience, many of her friends and “very immediate family members” told her they’d had the procedure, too. She’d lived in Tennessee since she was six months old; most of the people around her were deeply conservative. “Abortion is a naughty word down here,” she says.  Which is why, when her friend set up a meeting with her representative, House Republican Jeff Burkhart, she had a feeling it would be like talking to a brick wall. But his lack both of sympathy and of basic reproductive knowledge still shocked her. He told Phillips, she recalls, that if his daughter had been faced with the same terrible news, he’d tell her to continue her pregnancy, even if doing so would endanger her life. When Phillips mentioned she had a six-year-old daughter, she says he cut her off mid-sentence and said he thought miscarriages could only happen with first pregnancies. “You didn’t think to do an ounce of research, and you’re voting on women’s reproductive health?” Phillips remembers responding aloud. “Are you serious?” That night, her mom suggested she run for office. Over the next few months, several more people suggested the same. And eventually, Phillips knew what she had to do: She’d run to unseat Rep. Burkhart for Tennessee’s District 75. Phillips is one of many women whose abortion stories have transformed them into full-throated pro-choice activists since Roe v. Wade fell—and she might be the first of a new wave of candidates, too. Sharing their stories have led some of these women to have close encounters with politicians, exposing how little they actually know about abortion and pregnancy. Nancy Davis, a woman who was denied an abortion in Louisiana shortly after Roe was overturned and who later established a foundation to help other patients, had a similar wake-up call in the company of legislators. Earlier this year, she testified at a hearing on Louisiana’s ill-fated HB522, which would have prevented doctors from being prosecuted for providing abortions. “Seeing the lack of empathy that was shown to other women and other families, it really had me outraged,” Davis says. After she testified, a male legislator stood up and said his wife had been faced with the same decision but decided to continue the pregnancy. “And I was thinking, ‘You guys still had the right to do what was best for you and your family,’” Davis says. “The bottom line was, he still had that option.” Like Phillips, Davis realized the most direct way she could confront ignorant policymakers was by voting them out—and possibly replacing them. Davis had a three-hour phone conversation with Phillips recently that inspired her even more. “I just think what she’s doing is amazing,” Davis says. By running for office, Phillips will “motivate other women to do the same thing.” In fact, Davis is hoping to be one of them: “I do plan on running for something this year,” she tells The Meteor. It's the first time she's revealed this decision publicly. It’s a well-worn pattern when it comes to closing the gender gap in politics: As women encourage each other, Phillips’ decision to run may prove to have a domino effect. “I told [Davis] the time is now,” she says. “We have got to let these Republican men know that women are powerful, we’re pissed, and we’re coming.”  WEEKEND READS 📚
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Welcome to the "TikTokalypse"
 October 3, 2023 Evening, Meteor readers, On October 3rd, he asked me what day it was. The first person to respond to this email with the correct movie title for this iconic line gets a special shoutout in Thursday’s newsletter. And don’t google, because I’ll know! Speaking of shoutouts, I’m sending a big virtual high-five to reader Camila for setting the record for most referrals of The Meteor in a single day. There’s a sweet tote coming your way!  In today’s newsletter, Scarlett Harris chats with Taylor Lorenz about who really made the internet, men do a weird thing, and we tell you some good news. Watching that movie, Shannon Melero  WHAT'S GOING ON
 BOOK TALKA Brief History of the Internet...And the Women Who've Been Left Out of ItJournalist Taylor Lorenz sets the record straightBY SCARLETT HARRIS  PHOTO BY BRIAN TREITLER I put off reading Taylor Lorenz’s new book, Extremely Online: The Untold Story of Fame, Influence and Power on the Internet, because after a whole day of being extremely online, the last thing I generally feel like doing is reading about it. But I’m glad I did, because Lorenz—a reporter for The Washington Post who’s known both for tirelessly covering topics like online political extremism and doxxing, and for being extremely online herself—has written a light, breezy dispatch of the last 20 years of the internet. “I wanted to write a book that was a fun read that people could move through…and a little bit nostalgic, too, for people who lived through all of this,” she tells The Meteor. This achievement is no mean feat given that Lorenz herself has been harassed and targeted by the likes of Tucker Carlson and Elon Musk. Despite this, Lorenz describes herself as a “tech optimist:” “I have experienced the best of the internet—it’s given me my career and a job that I love—and I’ve experienced some of the worst of the internet.” Here, she tells The Meteor about writing about a medium that pendulates wildly from one day to the next, which generation is most likely to fall victim to online scams (spoiler: it’s not who you think. Or maybe it is…), and how, despite the rise of the “tech bro,” women played a huge role in making the internet what it is. Scarlett Harris: There’s a quote in the book from one of your interviewees who says that the internet is “not the same as it was even a year ago”—and that was in 2019! What was it like to write a book in which the subject matter is changing on a daily basis? Taylor Lorenz: This is why I wrote an internet history book! Because [it’s] changing so quickly you don’t have much time to contextualize things. It’s really hard to zoom out and look at what the internet has wrought [over] the past 20 years and really tell that story. [I end the book] in 2021. We’re at this weird moment right now—especially with COVID, which shoved everyone inside and online—that felt like a bookend to an era. I thought I should end it around then. We’ve seen a lot of platform-specific stories, like The Social Network. We understand the history of social media through these corporate, Silicon Valley narratives. I wanted to help people understand how this all emerged without telling it through the lens of this genius tech man. I really wanted to tell this story from the user’s side. You mention these “tech man” figureheads of industry, but interestingly Extremely Online is centered on women. Why did you choose to approach it from that angle? So much of the internet was pioneered by women, and they’ve been completely written out of history. When you look at who were the influential content creators or whatever you want to call them, they’re often young women. [Lorenz has a chapter in the book that dissects the recent move from the women-coded “influencer” to the male-friendly “content creator.”] It’s known in the tech world that if you have a product that’s used by teen girls, that’s a good sign because they’re some of the most hyper-engaged social media users. I wanted to tell the stories of some of these women, what they went through, and the level of misogyny that happened and continues to happen. A lot of people who are marginalized helped build [the internet]. Stay-at-home moms ushered in the blogging revolution. People like Tay Zonday, who wrote “Chocolate Rain,” ended up being the blueprint for virality, and his song is about systemic racism! [Proto-influencer] Julia Allison I write a lot about; I wish I had more time to write about what she went through. Look at what happened with the Johnny Depp trial more recently and these misogynistic harassment campaigns that are being levied against women. It’s really important to think critically about misogyny, [and] how the internet and our media landscape facilitate misogyny—because let’s be real, a lot of hate these women got were from legacy institutions who wanted to keep these women in their place. We do have to talk about the TikTok of it all. I think a lot of people found solace in it during lockdown…but as you say, we really saw how much of a cesspool it can be—or what you call the TikTokalypse—during last year’s Johnny Depp v. Amber Heard trial. Do you see TikTok as harmful or helpful? I think it’s neutral at this point. There’s reason to be concerned about it, not in terms of ownership but the instant mobs that can be generated there. Suddenly the whole app will mobilize for or against someone, whether that’s Johnny Depp or West Elm Caleb or Couch Guy. But it’s an incredible portal into our world and a valuable communication tool. It’s about how we use these tools, what we use them for, and, if we do regulate them, that we do it in a smart, not restrictive way in which people’s privacy is invaded. Some bills [that seek to regulate TikTok] are ostensibly about keeping kids safe online, but are really about taking away people’s privacy. The verdict’s still out on TikTok. A recent tweet I saw contended that Boomers and Gen Z were the most vulnerable to online scams. Do you agree? What makes them so susceptible to the deception and fabrication of social media? Boomers grew up in a time without the internet, so they don’t understand it and don’t know how to navigate it. Gen Z grew up with too much access to information and not enough contextualizing of that information. I don’t think anyone has media literacy—in America, especially. The majority of Americans can’t tell an opinion article from a reported article, so they certainly can’t tell the nuance of information in this content creator-driven ecosystem, especially with things like TikTok where you develop parasocial relationships with people who are telling you information that you’re so primed to believe because of the [intimacy of the] platform. This is a failure of the public education system. We don’t teach civics or [media] literacy, and there’s all of these political actors who have a very vested interest in people not having that. You have the institution of journalism which I also don’t think is interested in people having media literacy outside of their own interests. You shouldn’t trust the mainstream news all the time, either. We see all the problematic, transphobic stuff that gets published in major news outlets, so we all need better media literacy education, and there’s no authority that we should trust. We have a huge crisis of trust. One of the influencers you profile said, “No therapist was even trained in internet hate back then. It was hard to get help for the emotional breakdowns I was having from people lashing out at me.” We hear about law enforcement still being clueless about cyberstalking and doxxing. Do you think that’s changed? No, it’s gotten worse. I wrote a story a couple of months ago about another horrible Supreme Court decision about online stalking being totally fine as long as the stalker intended it in a nice way! Hello, have you ever had a stalker? They’re completely delusional. It’s horrible. It’s that old trope of Oh, just turn off your phone. We live in an internet-mediated world. I could quit the internet tomorrow and these people would still be showing up at my job or harassing my family members and getting me kicked off TV shows for being too controversial. It shuts women, people of color, and LGBTQ people out of opportunities. It’s not getting better. It won’t get better until we have this gerontocracy out of power. We need people who actually get it writing the laws and figuring out policy. Right now, we have a bunch of Boomers who don’t know how to turn their computer on. Given all this, how do you maintain your levity when it comes to the internet? Would you ever consider stepping away from social media or think that others should? I’m very much a tech optimist. The power of the internet is its ability to connect people. Human connection is good, as opposed to isolation. I truly believe in a better world through technology. I don’t love what the internet has become right now. The problem we’re facing is that for the past 15 years, these tech conglomerates have emerged that have taken the beauty of the internet and corporatized and commodified it. I don’t think that we want a less connected world, but I don’t think that our connections should be mediated, warped, and exploited by these completely irresponsible, terrible tech companies. We’re in a fluctuation period. It’s still very early in the course of internet history, and overwhelmingly I do consider it a positive thing.  Scarlett Harris is a culture critic, author of A Diva Was a Female Version of a Wrestler: An Abbreviated Herstory of World Wrestling Entertainment, and editor of The Women Of Jenji Kohan.  TELL ME SOMETHIN' GOOD 🎶
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GOP accidentally helps trans kids
  September 28, 2023 Hey, Meteor readers, Yesterday, I stayed up quite late (9:30 pm) watching the 45th season premiere of Survivor, and my body hasn’t quite recovered from listening to Emily talk her way into the Crappiest Player Hall of Fame. But it’s always worth it to see Jeff Probst, who is aging like fine Italian wine. Drop the skincare routine, Probst!  In today’s newsletter, we explain what led to an unexpected win in Montana, confront the “childcare cliff,” and share some weekend reading. Calling it an early night, Shannon Melero  WHAT'S GOING ONHorse dewormers for trans rights (somehow): Yesterday morning, a Montana judge blocked SB99, the state’s ban on gender-affirming care for transgender youth—the same ban that State Representative Zooey Zephyr spoke out against last spring, leading to her censure and removal from the House floor. Many parties can be thanked for this win, among them the relentless Zephyr and the Montana citizens who showed up in force to testify against the bill. But one factor might surprise you: Republicans’ fondness for using ivermectin, a horse dewormer, to treat COVID-19. In the same session that saw SB99 become law, Montana Republicans also passed SB422, protecting people’s “right to try” experimental medication not approved by the FDA (such as ivermectin) as long as they—or, if they’re a minor, their parent/legal guardian—have given informed consent. Now listen: Is using ivermectin to treat COVID-19 safe? Survey says no. But in the interest of bodily autonomy, and as someone who’s been receiving gender-affirming medical care for some time now, I’m all for a “you do yours, I’ll do mine” policy when it comes to what we choose to put in our bodies. So why, for these legislators, does informed consent and the “right to try” medication apply to one drug but not another? Zephyr noted this glaring hypocrisy back when SB422 was first introduced. Thankfully, the court agreed: Missoula County District Judge Jason Marks, who was appointed by a Democratic governor, wrote in his decision yesterday that these two laws together allow parents to give consent for their child’s medical treatments “regardless of efficacy or risk…unless the minor is transgender.” He ended up concluding the same thing Zephyr did: that “the purported purpose given for SB99 is disingenuous.” Right wing legislators’ cherry-picking embrace of bodily autonomy is well-documented; they love it when it comes to the right to refuse vaccines or wearing masks, but hate it when it comes to any right exercised by trans or pregnant people. So it’s a real treat to see that, for once, the courts aren’t buying it. —Bailey Wayne Hundl AND:
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 WEEKEND READS 📚On censorship: In America, most book bans are driven by a group of 11 people. Jennifer Petersen, a Virginia mom, is one of them. She has already challenged 73 books—and she has no plans to stop. (The Washington Post) On gender politics: Women and children who fled Afghanistan have been denied entry to the United States in astounding numbers. One family tells their story. (Slate) On the floor: Get ready for the literal Olympics of breakdancing. (The Athletic)  FOLLOW THE METEOR Thank you for reading The Meteor! Subscribe using their unique share code or snag your own copy, sent Tuesdays and Thursdays.
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Half of organized workers are women
 September 26, 2023 Hey there, Meteor readers, Many, many people in my life have inquired and I want to confirm to all of them—and you—that yes, I did see that Taylor Swift was at Sunday’s Kansas City Chiefs game. Allegedly Taylor is dating tight end Travis Kelce, but if you ask me, a certified Swiftologist, I’d say this is all part of a larger riddle connected to the re-release of her next album and not an actual romantic relationship. The signs are there if we just connect the dots…  Today’s newsletter is sunnier than normal: We tick off labor’s recent wins, celebrate Carson Pickett’s history-making moment, and share a little good news. Yours in Swiftness, Shannon Melero  WHAT'S GOING ONBigger than Hollywood: There’s light at the end of the tunnel for WGA workers! While SAG-AFTRA is still on strike, the writer’s union reached a tentative agreement with the Alliance of Motion Picture and Television Producers on Sunday after a 146-day strike. (The WGA’s board and members are set to vote on the terms today.) The agreement comes on the heels of another, less publicized victory: a WGA-backed California law that was recently passed in the state’s senate. The bill would allow striking workers to collect unemployment benefits—a pro-labor law that exists in only two other states: New York and New Jersey. If you ask us, this is a Big Deal. Gov. Gavin Newson has yet to sign the bill, but its success and timing is just the latest example of labor’s growing power. Organized labor has been flexing its muscle all over the place lately, and not just in Hollywood: President Biden joined the auto worker’s picket line today in Michigan, UPS workers won a favorable five-year contract in August after they threatened a work stoppage, and American Airlines’ flight attendants recently voted to authorize a strike. Even though the share of workers who are unionized continues to shrink, there’s still an unmistakable pro-labor energy sweeping the country. As Sarita Gupta (who oversees the Future of Work(ers) program at the Ford Foundation) remarked last week at the Free Future summit, “We’re just seeing workers across the economy organize in ways that, at least in my lifetime, I have not experienced.” Let’s be real: The president wouldn’t join a strike unless he knows it’s politically popular. And it’s popular with—and important for—women. When someone mentions “union,” many will think of dudes in hard hats, the kinds of manual laborers that Biden joined today. But that stereotype is inaccurate, both now and throughout history. Nearly half of today’s organized workers are women, and Black workers are more likely to be represented by unions than members of any other racial group. The labor movement is increasingly making headway in industries that are more likely to hire women and people of color, from retail to Amazon warehouses. These are “the exact workers that common wisdom or whatever has told us are not organizable,” labor journalist Kim Kelly told The Meteor last spring. “They are organizing, and they’re winning.” AND:
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"Parenting in America feels so nonconsensual."
 September 21, 2023 Salve, Meteor readers, Do you think about the Roman Empire a lot? Turns out lots of men on the internet do, and I too have to admit to frequently pondering the legitimacy of Gaius Octavius’s claim to the throne. But tonight, instead of reading through the Cesarean family tree (again), I’m thinking about The Meteor’s newest podcast In Retrospect, which launched today! Woo! The Meteor’s own Susie Banikarim (whose Emmy I stare at whenever we chat on Zoom) and New York Times editor Jessica Bennett look at how some of the biggest cultural moments of the ‘80s and ‘90s shaped our understanding of the world. Their first episode? All about how General Hospital’s Luke and Laura became everyone’s favorite soap-opera couple…but actually started off when Luke raped Laura. (There’s a lot to dissect there.)  In today’s newsletter, writer Scarlett Harris talks to author Amanda Montei about her new book Touched Out, Rupert Murdoch's exit has us examining his dystopian legacy, and we share a little something about work. Retrospectively, Shannon Melero  WHAT'S GOING ONDo let the door hit you on the way out: Rupert Murdoch is officially stepping down from his role as dark overlord of Fox Corp. and News Corp. after a nearly 70-year career in the news industry. Although to say he was “in” the industry is a bit of a downplay, considering that this man shaped the conservative and rightwing news landscape as we know it. For longer than I’ve been alive, Rupert Murdoch has been The News. You might think that as a journalist, I have some respectful words for this magnate who was technically an innovator. But you’d be wrong! Because Murdoch was so powerful and rich, the outlets he owned will share flowery accounts of his success and influence, painting a picture of a controversial entrepreneur. But the reality is that Murdoch wielded his influence like a machete to wreak international havoc. Remember when Fox News knowingly broadcasted election-related lies and escorted Trump to victory in 2016? Or when Murdoch pretended that the allegations of rampant sexual misconduct at Fox were just “nonsense” cooked up by his lefty enemies? Let’s also remember that Murdoch frothed up enthusiasm for the Iraq War, let Tucker Carlson peddle racist conspiracy theories, and brought us the witches’ coven that is The Fox Blondes. (I would like to apologize to any witches who find that comparison offensive. Please do not hex me.) Sadly, his exit doesn’t mean that the Murdochs’ grip on American news is loosening. Not only will his son run the show, but 92-year-old Murdoch intends to remain “chairman emeritus” at Fox. It’s giving something familiar…  AND:
 BOOK TALKWhere Rape Culture Meets MotherhoodAmanda Montei on being "touched out"BY SCARLETT HARRIS  IMAGE COURTESY OF BEACON PRESS “Parenting in America feels so nonconsensual.” That’s the thesis of Amanda Montei’s new book, Touched Out: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent and Control, which charts how rape culture—the idea that young women’s bodies are not our own—prepares us for the expectation that we should ignore pain and discomfort in motherhood. Montei offers all-too-relatable visuals of how this manifested with her own children, who were climbing all over her like a jungle gym. That scenario, along with breastfeeding and obligatory sex, has “mothers hiding in bathrooms, pressing hands out around them to create imaginary barriers between body and world... husbands and children.” As a mother, Montei got the feeling that her “body was a play thing”—the same message she’d gotten as a girl. We spoke to her about what it means to be “touched out,” how #MeToo forced her to confront past trauma, and what it feels like to raise kids during such a fraught time in American history. For those who may not know already, what does “touched out” mean? “Touched out” is this term that has become popularized over the last decade or so online, mostly with millennial, cis, hetero, married women [and especially mothers]. Usually when we see descriptions of this phenomenon it’s “skin crawling”: that desire to jump out of one’s skin and a longing for personal space. It became a metaphor for the way a lot of us feel living in systems of power that’s like, I need a break from all these expectations and scripts and hands. A lot of the early writing around this feeling was that it’s normal and natural but it will pass. That didn’t sit well with me. Is that what led you to [connect] your experience with being touched out as a mother with the #MeToo movement and your own experiences with sexual assault and harassment? That’s how I experienced #MeToo: I was a new mother. I had been pushed out of my academic career in many respects. I was working at a daycare, taking care of a young kid while pregnant again, and I was parenting mostly alone. I was kind of watching all of this unfold and processing all this new language and the invitation to let go of the other kind of shame that comes with blaming oneself for being violated. That was a lot to respond to while having a small child, so I wanted to take the reader through that feeling because I think it’s a common experience, from speaking with other mothers. With that in mind, do you think pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting can be traumatizing? Birth can be and is traumatizing for plenty of people, not to mention pregnancy, especially now in this post-Roe era. In an American context, the terms of trauma and triggering get a really bad rap in the sense that “everything’s trauma,” but I think that’s unfortunate because we are still very much living in a time when women’s trauma and violation aren’t taken seriously. [And with] parenthood, there’s aspects that can be traumatizing. Being with children all the time…forces us to face a lot of our unresolved issues, not just about our bodies but about everything [such as breastfeeding, care work, and consent]. The stuff that we buried through addiction and other coping mechanisms. We don’t talk about that in postpartum care at all. You write about the dichotomy between the medicalization of pregnancy and childbirth in America versus “natural childbirth,” which, removed from their political ideologies, contribute to…pregnant and postpartum bodies being objectified. Can you tell me a little more about that? Childbirth especially is this ideological battlefield: It’s either this medical institution built on distrust of pregnant voices, particularly when it comes to race and the disbelief of Black women’s pain, or it’s this proving ground: In certain “natural childbirth” mentalities, we go through pain and suffering in order to prepare us to be parents, which is problematic because there are plenty of non-gestational parents who don’t go through childbirth. There’s that Nike campaign, which has this line that mothers are the toughest athletes and only the strongest survive. And that sounds empowering, but it comes from a long line of thinking that [normalizes] suffering and pushing through pain. How does it feel to have this book coming out now during such a fraught time, with the fall of Roe and the childcare crisis, amongst other things? I began working on it before COVID, but I was really working on it during the pandemic and it felt urgent because suddenly people were having these conversations that previously were radical, like giving parents money for the work they do inside the home. This is a sad and horrible time in the sense that we have this aggressive rollback of rights, but it’s also a time when more and more people want to have these conversations about caregiving, how capitalism is set up, the exploitation of women’s work in the home and how that is a major source of male power. Writing and parenting are interrelated in the sense that we want to be honest about what’s hard but we also want to create some imagined other future. That’s the creative, intellectual work of parenting. Motherhood is this unfinished territory, so I hope with this book we can see how…motherhood and family as an institution are related to these other issues around autonomy and consent and sexuality. They’re not this niche, unserious thing. This interview has been lightly edited and condensed for length and clarity.  Scarlett Harris is a culture critic, author of A Diva Was a Female Version of a Wrestler: An Abbreviated Herstory of World Wrestling Entertainment, and editor of The Women Of Jenji Kohan.  LET'S GET TOGETHER!Planning to be in New York on October 12? Crazy, so are we! We’ll be at Neueue House hosting Work Shift, a half-day summit exploring the ways work is changing for women and nonbinary people—and how to navigate those shifts. You can reserve your seat by clicking on the image below. Hope to see you there!   FOLLOW THE METEOR Thank you for reading The Meteor! Got this from a friend? Subscribe using their unique share code or snag your own copy, sent Tuesdays and Thursdays. |
Some men are losing their jobs 😈
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No images? Click here  September 20, 2023 Fair Monduesday*, Meteor readers, Well, it’s that time of year. Students and teachers have returned to school—or, in some parts of the country, they haven’t. I find this new school year particularly tense: My oldest niece Ezra is starting her senior year of high school 😭 and with the fall of affirmative action, she and her peers will have to decide whether it will help or harm them to mention race in their college application essays. I don’t envy the young. In today’s newsletter we’re pointing and laughing at Ken Paxton, learning our soccer history, and spreading a little good news. Staring at Ezra’s baby photos, Shannon Melero *For those of you who are new here, a Monduesday is any Tuesday after a three-day weekend that is behaving as a Monday. Patent pending.  WHAT'S GOING ONImpeachy keen: Today was the first day of Texas attorney general Ken Paxton’s impeachment trial. Why I’m gleefully watching the livestream: Paxton is a hard-core Trump ally, vocally anti-choice, anti-LGBTQ+, and last year supported a “Women’s Bill of Rights” meant to delegitimize trans women. (We wrote all about it here.) Not that these offenses have anything to do with Paxton’s trial. Paxton was suspended from his position in May after the 16 articles of impeachment brought against him by the Texas House accused him of “bribery, disregarding his official duty, making false statements, and abusing the public trust.” Astonishingly, this impeachment trial (the first Texas has had in almost 50 years) was brought against him by his fellow Republicans. Never did I think I’d live to see the day the GOP held one of their own accountable. Also making this trial soap-opera-adjacent is the fact that Paxton’s wife, Angela, is a state senator and must be present for the proceedings but cannot vote on the outcome. That little factoid is key because back in May, Angela said she would not recuse herself and was going to carry out her duties through the end of the trial. But her peers barred her from voting or participating in deliberations. Which is good news for Paxton, considering that a chunk of the evidence against him revolves around an extramarital affair. It’s like we’re living in a House of Cards episode. AND:
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Have you crossed the WGA picket line?
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No images? Click here  September 20, 2023 Buenas noches, lectores del Meteor, Tomorrow marks the beginning of Hispanic/Latine Heritage Month, which also marks the month the gente explain that just because many of us fall under this invented ethnic category doesn’t mean we are of the same culture. (But we do all love platanos and that is what binds us. Don’t @ me.) In today’s newsletter we identify the scabs of the writer’s strike, put the “win” back in Wisconsin, and give you some good weekend reads. Using my ancestral name this month, Shannon Lebron Valles Melero-Ureña  FREE FUTUREToday, The Meteor was at the Ford Foundation for the inaugural Free Future summit, focusing on the global rise of gender-based violence (GBV). There was a stellar line-up of speakers on everything from the importance of how we talk about sexual assault to the rise of deadly laws in Uganda. Here are some powerful moments from the summit: “As a culture, we breed predation.” “The problem in this country is that we do not see sexual violence as a social justice issue…and it is. Anything that happens every 68 seconds is a public health crisis!” “Even me speaking on a stage like this is illegal.” “[The] Supreme Court [is] shifting away from a rights-protection mode to a rights-denial mode. And having done that, what is happening throughout the country are policies that are doing existential harm.” You can watch the entire day of programming here.  QUE 'TA PASANDODon’t be a scab: The Writers Guild of America (WGA) has been on strike for more than 100 days. In July, they were joined by the Screen Actors Guild (SAG). As in any labor strike, both groups agreed to withhold their most precious asset: their work. Actors are also not promoting any of their projects in compliance with strike rules. But on Sunday, SAG member Drew Barrymore announced that her talk show was returning, and all hell broke loose. Is this a strike violation? Is she a scab? Should writers try to get on her show? What does this say about Drew’s values? Let’s break all that down. Full disclosure: I’m a card-carrying WGA member, so if it seems like I’m angry about all this, it’s because I am. After initially supporting the strike—even refusing to host an MTV awards show in solidarity—Drew shared that her talk show will resume production because they are “in compliance” with the strike. That term, though, is misleading, especially for viewers who aren’t familiar with how the SAG and WGA function. As a SAG member, Drew herself is in fact compliant with the strike because her show is produced under what’s called the “Network Television Code,” because this specific agreement is not what SAG or the WGA are striking over. In the world of the WGA, different kinds of writers are covered under different collective bargaining agreements. For example, as a digital media writer, I operate under “workplace-specific agreements,” which means my circumstances change based on where I work. But film and television writers work under the Minimum Basic Agreement regardless of what show they’re on. Right now, the strike is concerned with that MBA. The WGA also distinguishes between film/TV writers and broadcast news writers, even though they both work for television shows. This means the writers of Succession work under the Minimum Basic Agreement, but the writers of Good Morning America work under workplace-specific agreements. GMA is a news broadcast, which requires a different skill set than writing ten episodes of prestige television. Which group can’t work right now? The latter—which includes the three television writers Drew employs. Drew isn’t the only one making a return; other talk shows like Real Time with Bill Maher and The View will be going forward without any writers at all. Make no mistake: This is still scab behavior, but distinct from Drew’s strategy. A spokesperson for CBS Media Ventures claimed that the show would return but “will not be performing any writing work covered by the WGA strike,” which leaves the door open for hiring non-striking WGA writers and pretends that’s the same thing as compliance. If you’re finding writers to replace the ones on strike, you’re absolutely crossing the picket line—full stop. Look, I get it: At this point in the strike, writers desperately need work and it’s hard to get mad at someone doing what they must to pay rent. Still, as Drew’s co-head writer Christina Konan put it in the L.A. Times: “If you feel like you’re sacrificing three writers for a crew of hundreds, I see that perspective. But then if you zoom out a little bit more, you’ll see that it isn’t about those three writers. It’s about an entire union of 11,000-plus writers.” TAMBIÉN:
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 📚POR FIN DE SEMANAOn government: What’s the latest threat to American national security? Congressional leaders developing dementia. (The Intercept) On Betty: Moira Donegan revisits the legacy and the likability of Betty Friedan. (The New Yorker) On besties with babies: Ever wonder why friendships get more complicated after someone has a kid? Us, too. (The Cut)  FOLLOW THE METEOR Thank you for reading The Meteor! Got this from a friend? Subscribe using their unique share code or snag your own copy, sent Tuesdays and Thursdays.
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Rolling Stone's White-man Complex
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No images? Click here  September 19, 2023 Hey, Meteor readers, Okay, let’s get the big news out of the way: Josh and Jackie from Love is Blind have broken up, and I am thanking all the deities that our girl Jackie is away from that man-child.  In today’s newsletter, Nona Willis Aronowitz, guest editor for The Meteor, explains the fraught history behind the Rolling Stone controversy; Drew Barrymore has a change of heart; and a Michigan school board kills creativity. Love has 20/20 vision, Shannon Melero  WHAT'S GOING ONLike my mama said: On Friday, the New York Times ran a truly wild interview with Rolling Stone co-founder Jann Wenner that boiled blood across the internet and beyond. Asked why his new book “The Masters” only profiles white guys with guitars, Wenner explained that neither women nor Black musicians met his criteria of being “articulate enough on this intellectual level.” (Whatever that means.) Joni Mitchell? “Not a philosopher of rock ‘n’ roll.” Marvin Gaye? Curtis Mayfield? “They just didn’t articulate at that level.” Never mind that Black artists literally invented rock ‘n roll. Not the “masters” in Wenner’s book. The reaction was swift: The Rock & Roll Hall of Fame, which Wenner co-founded, removed him from the board. Rolling Stone—which has been run by Wenner’s son, Gus, since 2019—officially denounced his comments. It might be tempting to file away this dust-up as yet another white male Boomer saying the quiet part out loud. But it’s hard to overstate how much Rolling Stone in its heyday set the tone for pop culture and determined which artists mattered—and which artists didn’t. Practically since its founding in 1967, critics have pointed out how hostile the magazine can be toward women and people of color—including my own mother, rock critic and feminist essayist Ellen Willis. In 1970, my mom wrote a letter to Rolling Stone co-founder Ralph Gleason declining his invitation to write for him. Though she believed RS was “the best rock magazine going,” she found it to be “viciously anti-woman…RS habitually refers to women as chicks and treats us as chicks, i.e. interchangeable cute fucking machines.” She didn’t want to be a “token woman writer for a magazine that doesn’t print women in general.” She also criticized RS’s lazy tendency to dismiss politics as having nothing to do with the “cultural revolution” of sex, drugs, and rock ‘n’ roll: ![Text from a 1976 letter written by Ellen Willis to Ralph Gleason. In this excerpt Willis mentions "What [Rolling Stone] wants is more bread and circuses; I like to have fun too, but what I really want is an end to my oppression."](http://i3.cmail20.com/ei/y/E1/AD3/55A/065042/csfinal/IMG_0533-9900000000079e3c.jpg) IMAGE COURTESY OF NONA WILLIS ARONOWITZ In the days since Wenner biographer Joe Hagan posted excerpts from this letter on X, several news outlets have reported that my mother refused to write for Rolling Stone. But that’s not the full story. In fact, she did end up publishing several pieces in the magazine, including 1975’s “The Trial of Arline Hunt,” a prescient account of a woman who was blamed for her own rape. My mother died in 2006, but if she were still here, she’d make a point to mention Marianne Partridge, the editor who assigned that piece and was one of several women who pushed back against the magazine’s male-centric culture in the ‘70s. Still, these women’s efforts only went so far; in the last few days, more recent stories of racism and sexism at Rolling Stone have trickled in. One former female editor who worked there about a decade ago alleged on her private Instagram account (which she allowed The Meteor to quote) that she was “treated like trash on eight levels for getting pregnant.” The problem wasn’t with the staff so much as “the policies that were either in place or made up as they went along to avoid poking the bear that was Jann”—policies, she later elaborated to The Meteor, like zero maternity leave and a strict no-work-from-home rule. Cultural critic Nelson George commented that Wenner’s remarks “reflect the continuum of thought that defined [Rolling Stone’s] coverage and why they never really caught up to rap.” Several people pointed out that magazines like VIBE and The Source were founded precisely because RS ignored hip-hop. Rolling Stone has a far more diverse (though still pretty white) masthead today. As the Wenner controversy simmers down, let’s remember that it’s often the workers who end up reshaping institutions, despite their founders’ retrograde views. —Nona Willis Aronowitz AND: 
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